My Lavendar Marriage

Today the angry feelings resurfaced. It took me by surprise. The day had been pleasant so far. Then we drove to Home Depot to purchase some things we needed for our new house. When we drove out of the parking lot, we passed a gay couple walking into the store. One of the men was […]

My angry feelings surfaced today. Underneath them is fear. Fear of being financially vulnerable if my marriage ends. Fear of my life changing in ways I don’t want. Today I told my husband, who recently came out to me as gay, that he had been gaslighting me for years. I would come to him with […]

My husband came out to me as gay two days ago. But I’ve suspected all along. I always had this vague sense that he was being dishonest with me. I never caught him in a significant lie. But I intuitively sensed that there was something he was holding back from me. He would hide little […]

Last night my husband came out as gay. We’ve been married for almost 13 years. We have 3 children together. This is the beginning of my story. I’m in shock. Not because I’m surprised by my husband’s admission that he’s gay. I’ve suspected it for years. It’s shocking the way someone who watches a building […]